Be willing to go there

By Bob Perks

"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're
on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the
one who'll decide where to go..."
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You'll Go!

"Off in the distance is the place you want to be, whether it's just for today, tomorrow or three.

The challenge, my friend is not in the dream, scheme or care.
but having the strength, the plan and the will to go there.
- Bob Perks, Setting Goals

There is so much we want to happen in life.  There are big plans and little hopes and dreams that keep us alive.

The problem I am suggesting is all about the will.

If you ask someone what they would like to do, or where they would like to be, most people would smile and share their inner most desires with you.

But then ask them the question that often stops them in their tracks.

"Are you willing to go there?"

We often see the dream but the road leading to it is rough, hard to maneuver and filled with pot holes.

The dream falls short because the will to make it happen is weak.

If you were told that in order to make your dreams come true you would have to go to the edge of a cliff and stand there,
would you be willing to go there?

If you knew you had to fall a few times before you could stand tall, would you be willing to go there.

Would you be willing to walk away, change, face the monster,
fight, love again, stand down or stop dreaming the dream?

I discovered a long time ago that in most cases, there is a simple answer to why people have not reached their goals in life.

They share with me all the things that they've done, all the plans that they made.  They speak of trying over and over again.

Then I tell them to answer this simple question.

"In pursuit of your dreams, what is it that you are not willing to do?"

Often there is a pause in the conversation.  Then they begin to list certain things that they took out of the dream equation.

"That may be the reason you have not arrived, not fulfilled your dreams."

One shared her dream of starting a business.

"I want to start a business but the local economy is bad."

"Then move to where it is better."

"Oh, I don't want to move."

Another talked about how his job was affecting his health.

"I hate my job.  I am so stressed out that I am physically ill.
My doctor says my blood pressure is up and I've lost too much weight."

"Then leave your job for a less stressful one so you can regain your health."

"Oh, I can't.  I'll never find another job that will pay me this much."

"So, the alternative is you could die making a good salary."

It's what they are NOT willing to do that is stopping them.

Career changes may call for more education but some are not willing to go back to school.

It's what they are not willing to do that prevents them from advancing their careers.

I recently posted another message about forgiveness.  Many shared their doubts and inabilities to do such a thing.  It is a proven fact that the benefits of forgiveness for the one doing the forgiving far outweighs the destruction it causes to carry the pain for the rest of their life.

It's what they are not willing to do.

I suggest that any dream can manifest in your life if you are willing to do what it takes to get there.

But don't feel defeated by impossible dreams.  There is an answer for that.

"Not Willing to do"
By Bob Perks

If you can't have the dream that you think that you want.
If you've tried and you've gotten nowhere.
Then change your dream to a new dream or two
and always be willing to go there.
For it's not what you've won
Or where you live in the end
It's not the size or the tries, nor you.
It's simply not what you've done so far, my friend
It's what you aren't willing to do.

"I believe in you!"

J

Bob Perks

Good Monday to you

Learn to appreciate what you have before

time makes you appreciate what you had. 

 
Be patient. Things will change for the better. 

 
Standing alone doesn't mean I'm alone, it means

I'm strong enough to handle things all by myself. 

 
Follow your dreams, they know the way. 

 
Once you replace negative thoughts

with positive ones, you'll start

having positive results. 
 

 
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

 
Butterflies don't know the colour of their wings

but human eyes know how beautiful it is. Likewise,

you don't know how good you are but others can

see that you are special. 

 

 
When someone is going through a storm,

your silent presence is more powerful

than a million, empty words. 

 
Three things you cannot recover in life:

the WORD after it’s said, the MOMENT

after it’s missed and the TIME after it’s

gone. Be Careful! 

 
Open your heart to the beauty in Life,

and your Life will reflect the beauty in

your heart.

 
A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch

breaking because her trust is not on the branch

but on its own wings. 

 
Every morning you have two choices,

continue your sleep with dreams or

WAKE UP and chase your dreams.

CHOICE IS YOURS.

 
I can’t change the direction of the wind

but I can adjust my sails to always reach

my destination. 

 
I've learned that people will forget what you said,

people will forget what you did but people will never

forget how you made them feel.

 
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning

but anyone can start today and make a new ending.

Proven Ways to Get Along Better With EVERYONE

Everyone tells me that they have difficulties getting along. With their colleagues, with their bosses, with relatives etc.
But they never look introspectively.
1.  Before you say anything to anyone, ask yourself 3 things:

    1.  Is it true?
    2.  Is it kind?
    3.  Is it necessary?

2.  Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully.

3.  Never miss the opportunity to compliment or say something encouraging to someone.

4.  Refuse to talk negatively about others; don't gossip and don't listen to gossip. 

5.  Have a forgiving view of people.  Believe that most people are doing the best they can.

6.  Keep an open mind; discuss, but don't argue.  (It is possible to disagree without being disagreeable.)

7.  Forget about counting to 10.  Count to 1,000 before doing or saying anything that could make matters worse.

8.  Let your virtues speak for themselves.

9.  If someone criticizes you, see if there is any TRUTH to what he is saying; if so, make changes.  If there is no truth to the criticism, ignore   it and live so that no one will believe the negative remark.

10. Cultivate your sense of humor; laughter is the shortest distance between two people.

11. Do not seek so much to be consoled, as to console; do not seek so much to be understood, as to understand; do not seek so much to be loved as to love.

Listen, or wait

A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street, going a bit to fast in his new Jaguar. 
He was watching for kids running out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something.

As his car passed, no children appeared. 
Instead, a brick smashed into the Jag's side door!  
He slammed on the brakes and reversed back to the spot from where the brick had been thrown. He jumped out of the car, grabbed the kid who threw the brick and pushed him against a parked car shouting. "What was that all about? Just what the heck are you doing?"

Building a head of steam he went on. "That's a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money!!"

"Please, mister, please. I'm sorry, I didn't know what else to do!!" pleaded the youngster. 
"I threw the brick because no one else would stop..." tears were dripping down the boy's chin as he pointed around the parked car. "It's my brother," he said. "He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up." 
Sobbing, the boy asked the executive, "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me."
 
Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. 
He lifted the young man back into the wheelchair and took out his handkerchief and wiped the scrapes and cuts, checking to see` that everything was going to be okay. "Thank you and May God  bless you," the grateful child said to him. 
The man then watched the little boy push his brother down the sidewalk toward their home.

It was a long walk back to his Jaguar ....a long, slow walk. He never did repair the side door. 

He kept the dent to remind him not to go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention.


God whispers in your soul and speaks to your heart. 

Sometimes when you don't have time to listen, He has to throw a "brick" at you. 

It's your choice: Listen to the whisper, or wait for the brick.

You choose

I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight. I have responsibilities to fulfill today.

I am important. My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.

Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or...
I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.

Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or...
I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.

Today I can grumble about my health or...
I can rejoice that I am alive.

Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or...
I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.

Today I can cry because roses have thorns or...
I can celebrate that thorns have roses.

Today I can mourn my lack of friends or...
I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.

Today I can whine because I have to go to work or...
I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.

Today I can complain because I have to go to school or...
I can eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.

Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or...
I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body, and soul.

Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped.
And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me.
I get to choose what kind of day I will have!

When does a man need a brother

Lonely and alone, discouraged and empty hearted
That's when a man needs a brother

When the burden is heavy, the load too much to bear
That's when a man needs a brother

When in despair, and needing someone to care
That's when a man needs a brother

When the strong arm on your shoulders make the tears flow free
That's when a man needs a brother

When the words, "we'll make it through together" seem so sweet
That's when a man needs a brother

When courage is needed and strength to carry on
That's when a man needs a brother

When you think you can do it alone
That's when a man needs a brother