Be willing to go there

By Bob Perks

"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're
on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the
one who'll decide where to go..."
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You'll Go!

"Off in the distance is the place you want to be, whether it's just for today, tomorrow or three.

The challenge, my friend is not in the dream, scheme or care.
but having the strength, the plan and the will to go there.
- Bob Perks, Setting Goals

There is so much we want to happen in life.  There are big plans and little hopes and dreams that keep us alive.

The problem I am suggesting is all about the will.

If you ask someone what they would like to do, or where they would like to be, most people would smile and share their inner most desires with you.

But then ask them the question that often stops them in their tracks.

"Are you willing to go there?"

We often see the dream but the road leading to it is rough, hard to maneuver and filled with pot holes.

The dream falls short because the will to make it happen is weak.

If you were told that in order to make your dreams come true you would have to go to the edge of a cliff and stand there,
would you be willing to go there?

If you knew you had to fall a few times before you could stand tall, would you be willing to go there.

Would you be willing to walk away, change, face the monster,
fight, love again, stand down or stop dreaming the dream?

I discovered a long time ago that in most cases, there is a simple answer to why people have not reached their goals in life.

They share with me all the things that they've done, all the plans that they made.  They speak of trying over and over again.

Then I tell them to answer this simple question.

"In pursuit of your dreams, what is it that you are not willing to do?"

Often there is a pause in the conversation.  Then they begin to list certain things that they took out of the dream equation.

"That may be the reason you have not arrived, not fulfilled your dreams."

One shared her dream of starting a business.

"I want to start a business but the local economy is bad."

"Then move to where it is better."

"Oh, I don't want to move."

Another talked about how his job was affecting his health.

"I hate my job.  I am so stressed out that I am physically ill.
My doctor says my blood pressure is up and I've lost too much weight."

"Then leave your job for a less stressful one so you can regain your health."

"Oh, I can't.  I'll never find another job that will pay me this much."

"So, the alternative is you could die making a good salary."

It's what they are NOT willing to do that is stopping them.

Career changes may call for more education but some are not willing to go back to school.

It's what they are not willing to do that prevents them from advancing their careers.

I recently posted another message about forgiveness.  Many shared their doubts and inabilities to do such a thing.  It is a proven fact that the benefits of forgiveness for the one doing the forgiving far outweighs the destruction it causes to carry the pain for the rest of their life.

It's what they are not willing to do.

I suggest that any dream can manifest in your life if you are willing to do what it takes to get there.

But don't feel defeated by impossible dreams.  There is an answer for that.

"Not Willing to do"
By Bob Perks

If you can't have the dream that you think that you want.
If you've tried and you've gotten nowhere.
Then change your dream to a new dream or two
and always be willing to go there.
For it's not what you've won
Or where you live in the end
It's not the size or the tries, nor you.
It's simply not what you've done so far, my friend
It's what you aren't willing to do.

"I believe in you!"

J

Bob Perks