The 5 things you must stress to people for them to accept your value to them

1. Ability

They must have confidence or at least trust in that you will deliver what you promise to them.

2. Value

You will sometimes oversell yourself, but the most consistent substance must always be the value of what you deliver.

3. Reliability

Even when things are going south, you stand out as a reliable person to be trusted with.

4. Cost

How much will it cost them?

5. Risk

How much risk will it be for them to entrust you?

Everyone is their own harshest critic

That internal voice is constantly criticising every move you do…

You’re never good enough.

And you can always do better.

Does that sound familiar?

It’s totally normal.

As humans in today’s over-stimulated world, our brains are wired to be constantly dwelling, obsessing, and stressing about little things that:

Don’t really matter at all.

In my life, the pivotal moment, when things started going my way, and I felt I was finally “on the path” happened when I started prioritizing brain care…

For me, loving my life pretty much comes down to these two big ideas:

1. Learning to see the beauty in everyday ordinary things

2. Expressing major gratitude, every day.

Notice how there’s nothing material or superficial there?

Here are 2 ways to put this all into action:

List The Things You Are Grateful For.

Gratitude is like a muscle, and it needs to be trained often. Every night before I go to sleep I make a list of the things I’m grateful for.

This always opens my eyes to how “good I have it”, especially on those days when I feel like my life is a mess.

Do a Monthly and Quarterly Review…

At the end of each month, summarize what defined that month.

Was it learning? Struggle? Adventure? Overcoming obstacles?

Wrap up what you did, the big things that happened, what you would do differently, and what you learned.

And every quarter, review your life in the same way a corporation would.

Track things, set goals for the following quarter, and strive to reach them.

Remember, what gets measured, gets managed!

What is confidence?

A woman was walking to work and accidentally stepped in wet cement. The construction worker laying the cement flipped out and yelled at her for not looking where she was going. She went away mortified.

The next day she was walking to work and came across the same construction worker still laying cement. She began apologising for stepping in the cement the day before. The cement man didn't remember her at all and said people stepped in the cement all the time and he couldn't possibly remember them individually.

Everyone in the world is a cement man.

Thing is, confidence is a liquid behavioural pattern. You can’t quite pin-point every micro reflection of a confident person. Confident behaviour influences every body movement, facial expression, voice tone, everything. If it doesn’t come to you naturally, it’d take you ages of analysis and practice to reproduce.

The good news is - it does come naturally in the right circumstances. When one is with his/her loved ones, his natural confidence comes out. That is because on such occasion you strip yourself down from the artificial valuables and allow the person in front of you to judge you for what you really are.

You subconsciously tap into a unique pattern of confidence, what you are doing to lose weight, the amount of money you have in the bank account, the status you’ve achieved so far, the posture, which so many life-hackers love to present as a sign of a confident person - none of it matters.

Learn confidence from your own natural pattern, not from others. 

Do that by realising that everyone on earth is a cement man. 

You, nor anyone else on this earth, matter too much, hence, calm down and act as if you’re with your loved ones.

That is true confidence