Six things successful people are doing

1.  They Focus On Winning, But Accept The Losses

These people are all about winning, it’s what makes them successful.

They understand that with winning, comes failing, and when you’re aiming high, failure is definitely to be expected.

They do this, but instead of being paralyzed by the fear of failure..

They understand that more losing, means more winning.

Plain and simple.

2. Screw It Lets Do IT

They take action. They stop reading about something. They stop procrastinating. And they just go for it.

If you don’t take action, you won’t get any results.

3. Work Every Day

No matter what day it is, holiday , birthday, or vacation – successful people are always doing something.

Of course they enjoy their time, but they never “unplug” from the mission.

Whether that means getting creative inspiration, sending an email, thinking differently, or making a valuable connection --- successful people are always looking to move their mission forward.

4.  Surround Yourself With Winners

Of course you’ve heard the saying “you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with’

Winners notice things in people (skills, mindsets, connections) and so they do their best to connect and surround themselves with people who will have a beneficial impact.

They also add value to other people’s lives, and cut out toxic people. They only allow the people who help move the forward.

5.  Say “NO”, A LOT

They’re not successful because they said “yes” every time someone asked for a favor, or for their time…

Successful people are busy, and more importantly, they keep themselves busy with the right things.

6. Plan The Day Ahead..

Each evening, map out what you are going to accomplish the next day.

This causes you to wake up with clarity and purpose, and frees up your energy to execute your tasks.

2020, the year we will celebrate all wins

Along the way, we forget to celebrate those tiny wins. Instead, we get distracted by the day-to-day problems, the emotional roller coaster, and the grind

What kind of wins should we celebrate? Every possible positive step.  Every last one. Each of those victories compounds into the overall goal. When we overlook them, or worse, fail to recognize them within our team, we lose out on the opportunity to build positive morale and momentum. In any business, morale and momentum are our most valuable assets because we're building something out of nothing — and the only fuel to make that work is optimism. How Should We Celebrate Tiny Wins? More than anything, with recognition. We need to stop and thank the people who put in the work, and that includes ourselves. In the formative years, so much of what we do is incredibly thankless because often, we're breaking things more than we're fixing them. Going day after day with that kind of pace is brutal, which is why we have to stop and recognize every win that we do make, to give us fresh energy and enthusiasm to get back in the slog. Think about it as refilling the gas tank, which has a giant frigging hole in the bottom as we're driving this car! So treat recognition like compensation? Absolutely!  The only thing worse than being paid a salary for hard work is doing it without and recognition or appreciation. Everyone appreciates a high five. It motivates the team and reminds folks that when the next impossible project comes up, it won't go totally unnoticed.

For 2020, DITCH THAT LIST

Why it’s time to ditch the to-do list:

#1 They don’t account for how long something will take.

Let’s be real. You’re really bad at gauging the time required to complete the task. As a result, we all put more things on our list than we are capable of doing.

#2 They Lack Clarity

There is no difference between urgent and important. There are no time boundaries. And we tend to “do” the urgent tasks, and put off the most important ones.

#3 They Lack Schedule

Unless you’re a badass, your to-do list is probably just a set of randomly gathered tasks in no order.

When you start your workday, you usually pick the ones based on your current mood.

And when there is no schedule, you’re more than likely to start switching between a few…

This also leads to procrastination…

Overall, the To Do List gives you the illusion of progress and accomplishment.

But I believe that:

To Do Lists make you prioritize the wrong stuff and make you less organized in the long run.

But planning and productivity are such an important ingredient in success…

What to do?

Schedule Everything Rigorously.

Be a professional. Write down your tasks, and dedicate time to them.

And stick to that schedule.

Give Yourself Tight Deadlines

The longer your deadline, the more likely you are to waste time and procrastinate.

Prioritize

Schedule your most important tasks in the morning.

Start your day by doing your most important thing, and use that momentum to carry you through the rest of your day.

Be Real With Yourself

Don’t overwork yourself. Don’t schedule more tasks than you can handle.

Hard work has nothing to do with productivity.

Your journey to success begins with you prioritizing, and executing what’s important for you.

The worst thing you can do is burn yourself out.

Your health and energy will take you everywhere you want to go

Where are you, exactly?

We all spend way too much time worrying about the future and what we are supposed to be doing.

We are stuck in a trap that lets us believe we should be exactly where we think we should be…

Where we have everything figured out, and we’re on the top of the mountain, basking in all the glory of life and our success.

What we forget is:

We are exactly where we need to be in life.

If something hasn’t happened for you, it just means you’re not ready.

It means you’re getting the experience you need so you can kill it when you are ready.

That is, if you ever are ready.

And you will be ready IF you do this one thing:

Learning.

It’s a matter of constantly learning what part of you is missing that will allow you to achieve everything you want in life.

The major lesson is to be patient.

You have your whole life to become and create.

AS long as you’re aware, moving forward, and learning…

You’re on exactly the right path.

It’s absolutely okay to not have “life figured out.”

It’s easy to see others success, compare yourself, and feel bad.

But instead, you should realize that as long as you’re taking action, learning, and moving forward:

You’re exactly where you need to be in life.

The list of “patient people at the top of their game” (and some great failures):

At age 23, Oprah was fired from her first reporting job.

At age 24, Stephen King was working as a janitor and living in a trailer.

At age 27, Vincent Van Gogh failed as a missionary and decided to go to art school.

At age 28, J.K. Rowling was a suicidal single parent living on welfare.

At age 30, Harrison Ford was a carpenter.

At age 30, Martha Stewart was a stockbroker.

Christian Dior founded Dior at the age of 41.

Jerry Baldwin founded Starbucks at 42.

Alan Rickman gave up his graphic design career and landed his first movie role at age 42.

Steve Carrel got his big break at age 43.

Stan Lee didn’t release his first big comic book until he was 43.

Samuel L. Jackson didn’t get his first major movie role until he was 46.

Charles Darwin published The Origin Of Species at age 50.

Morgan Freeman landed his first major movie role at age 52.

Kathryn Bigelow won the Academy Award for Best Director when she made The Hurt Locker at age 57.

Winston Churchill struggled in politics and was defeated in every election until the age of 62 when he became Prime Minister of the UK.

Colonel Sanders founded KFC at age 65.

This game of life is a marathon, not a sprint.

You CAN do the long-distance run.

Life's wisdom: Relationship advice

There is NO such thing as a 50-50 split. 

Things will always be unequal between partners. 

Some days you will be called on to give more because your wife needs more help, but the scales always tip back and next week you may need her support. 

At times, you may be called on to give 100%, or you may need her complete support because you have nothing left to give.

Here's the important part: if you are not willing to accept this temporarily unequal state of affairs, then you shouldn't be married. 

If you don't love your wife enough to put her happiness and wellbeing above your own, then you don't deserve it when she does that for you.

10 most important life skills

• The skill of truly listening to others. Most people are simply waiting for their turn to speak in a given conversation. Don’t be one of them. Learn to listen to what others have to say. To internalize it and truly understand it. It will make a world of difference.
• The skill of accepting yourself. We’re all fucked up. We all have trauma. We all have parts of ourselves that we hate. It’s simply a part of the human condition. To experience true happiness, you must learn to accept yourself as you are while you work to transform yourself into who you need to be.
• The skill of saying “no”. Most of us allow other people’s schedules and agendas to run our lives. From our parents to our friends to our coworkers to our bosses. We’ve become a nation of “yes men” (and women” incapable of prioritizing our own needs and desires. Learn to say “no” and mean it to make more time for the things that matter.
• The skill of being happy with where you are. Famous venture capitalist Naval Ravikant has said that, “Desire is a contract you make with yourself to be unhappy until you get what you want.” And he’s right. Most of us have more luxury, abundance, and convenience than the richest and most prosperous humans of the last thousand years. But we’re completely miserable. You must learn to be happy with where you are. To appreciate your stage in the journey of life while you work toward your goals and ambitions. Happiness is a choice. So choose happiness.
• The skill of authenticity. Most people think of authenticity as something you “have” or “don’t have”. But authenticity is a skill and a choice. You must learn how to act in alignment with what you really value, to shut out the noise of society, and to listen to your higher self. Although we are all born with this skill, the world beats it out of us by the time we hit puberty and it’s up to you to strengthen it once again.
• The skill of selecting the right romantic partners. Nothing will have a bigger impact, for better or worse, than the person with whom you choose to share your life. The problem is, most people are horrible at selecting the right romantic partner for themselves. To develop this skill, you must first gain a clear understanding of who you are and what you value and seek partners who align with your vision and values. If you do not learn this skill, you’re in for a world of hurt.
• The skill of relaxing and being. Most of us struggle to simply be. We think we have to be doing something all the time to be worthy of love or acceptance. But the truth is, you are enough just as you are. You must learn how to unwind and simply be present. To enjoy the experience of being human without needing to constantly be in motion. There’s a reason that both Eastern and Western philosophy claim presence is the ultimate form of enlightenment.
• The skill of perspective. When disaster strikes, it’s easy to believe that our world is ending. That the universe hates us. That everything is going to hell in a handbasket. But the simple truth is that—baring death or catastrophic injury—very few things matter as much as we pretend they do. You’re going to be fine and the worst-case scenario is still better than what 50% of the population faces on a daily basis. Never lose sight of this.
• The skill of resilience. Most people assume that tough, mentally strong, and disciplined people were simply “born that way”. But after interviewing 400+ of the world’s highest achievers, I’ve learned that nothing could be further from the truth. Resilience and disciplines are skills. Skills that take time, pain, and persistent inoculation against stress. (Go take cold showers for 30 days and you’ll see what I mean).
• The skill of speaking your truth. To live the happiest life possible, you must live in integrity with your truth. You must own who you are, what you believe, and what you want without fear or reservation. And you must develop the skill of speaking your truth with kindness…even (and especially) when it’s hard. As the old saying goes, “The truth will set you free”