Monday, August 26, 2019

Advice I was given by other people as an adult

 Advice I was given by other people as an adult:
  1. What you see in the mirror is not you. It is a reflection of something more powerful than what you see in the mirror. Find that thing and you’ve ‘cracked the code’ of life.
  2. I am a product of many teachers. I carry them wherever I go. I hear their voices whenever I try to do something wrong. My inner voice tells me to follow my instinct, which sometimes lands me into trouble, but in the end, I’m glad I’ve learned something new.
  3. Don’t listen to something you’ve already heard three times. You’ll not only waste your valuable time but also valuable space in your brain.
  4. Don’t carry an encyclopedia of facts in your brain. Neither store junk in your brain. Use your brain to think instead of a warehouse for facts.
  5. Don’t follow a large crowd. Large crowds always follow a blind person.
  6. When you meet a large crowd going a certain direction always go in the opposite direction.
  7. The reason 99% of people will never become rich is not because they don’t try hard. It is simply because they keep repeating the same mistakes that everybody else is making.
  8. The most difficult project on earth is not becoming rich. The most difficult project on earth is to change your mindset.
  9. If you learn this one thing you’ll never go broke. Learn to convert yourself into value.
  10. Happiness is the only thing you must work extra hard to have because it precedes success.
  11. Good friends are assets but having a bunch of friends who are more knowledgeable than you is security.
  12. Respect for other people ensures that you’ll never run out of people who treat you with respect and hold you in high esteem.
  13. Minimize mistakes by reading biographies of other people who made a lot of mistakes.
  14. Don’t fear failure. Instead, fear that thing that is preventing you from trying because, possibly, it’s also preventing you from your potential success.
  15. When greater difficulties arise, try to remember all the smaller battles you’ve fought and won and the smaller giants you’ve killed. Small achievements always tend to be overlooked more easily whenever greater difficulties come to intimidate us, but it’s the smaller victories that give us the assurance to kill bigger giants.
  16. Fault-finding kills morale and monotony breeds boredom. Why not give people recognition when they’re entitled and bring change when it’s the only option?
  17. Before you start pointing a finger, notice that three fingers are already pointing at you while the thumb is pointing upwards. Adjust your mind so that you start with yourself first before blaming others.
  18. The ear is the wisest organ of the body because it never talks back. This is proof that you will also become very wise if you use your ears to listen and shut your mouth.
  19. Complaining about anything only makes the situation worse because it only proves that you’re waiting for other people to solve the problem while you sit idle.
  20. Putting the best foot forward means that you should always think before you make a move. Those who move without thinking, fall into many traps and will incur heavy losses.
  21. Overcome your emotions however painful they are. Learn to think with your mind instead of your feet. Think on your feet if the situation is bad, by pacing up and down to help your mind to think. A small adjustment to your brain and your thinking pattern can save your life.
  22. Love is the ultimate emotion that controls the mind and soul. However, if you don’t love yourself first, how will you love your neighbor, for your neighbor is a reflection you?
  23. If you neglect your love life, you will certainly neglect yourself for it is only when love is poured outwardly that it makes sense.
  24. Ultimately, we all found ourselves belonging somewhere, which we can’t change; a geographical place, a society, a community, a family. Don’t rely too much on what other people created for you have no idea how they did it. Instead, you’ll probably be much happier if you created your own, which will reflect who you are.
  25. There’s no blindness greater than a lack of vision. Find the meaning of life by finding something to do and getting busy. An idle mind blurs your vision and paralyzes your bones.

Monday, August 05, 2019

How much time do you have left?

If you don't develop the courage to do that which has given to you to do, or if you just go around trying to convince other people or get their approval, what will happen is you will lose your nerve, and other people will convince you that what you are doing doesn't have any value and you'll give up on your dream.
 How much time do you have left? 
When you start thinking about that you will realize that you don't know. 
Most of us don't use the stuff that we have brought into the universe, so stop wasting valuable time in the wake of others opinions. 
If you want something, you have got to be relentless. 
You've got to learn how to become resourceful. 
You've got to learn how to become creative. 
The power to hold on in spite of everything. 
In spite of every excuse your mind can conceive of. 
The power to endure, this is the winners quality
The ability to face defeat and failure again and again without giving up. 
There's greatness in you! 
And you've got to learn how to tune out the critics outside, and more importantly the critic inside! 
Most people give up on themselves easily. 
Did you know the human spirit is powerful? 
It's hard to kill the human spirit! 
You are unstoppable! 
Live your life with passion, and with some drive!

Friday, August 02, 2019

how successful people think

When you work smart, you work on the things that matter.

You work on the things that move you towards your goals.

And you can’t work smart, without dedicating time to think.

Warren Buffett is the CEO of the fourth largest company in the United States, and has arguably one of the world’s most successful business records.

By his own estimate, he has spent over 80% of his career reading, and thinking.

Warren Buffett keeps his schedule wide open.

This is absolutely counter-intuitive to what we think a successful CEO does, and especially with all the “rah rah” work harder gospel being spread around today.

Naturally, we are going to assume that Warren Buffet is an anomaly – and we’d be absolutely correct to think that.

But in the pat few years, this approach to strategy and uninterrupted thinking has gained popularity.

For example, Tim Armstrong, the CEO of AOL, makes his executives spend four hours per week, just thinking.

Jeff Weiner, CEO of LinkedIn, schedules 2 hours of uninterrupted thinking time each day.

And even Bill Gates is known to take a week off twice a year, just to reflect deeply without interruption.

And I do the same – every morning, before I turn on my phone or computer, I spent 30 minutes just drinking my cup of coffee, and thinking uninterruptedly.

From there, I meditate for 10 minutes, and then journal my thoughts.

It’s a great way to get clarity in your life – for me, it serves as a sort of ‘inventory check’ of where I’m at now, and where I’m going.

Now, aside from carving out some time to “think”, you should have some intentions going into your thinking time…

Here are a few powerful questions to ask yourself and think about:

  1. Am I doing the right things with the right people?
  2. What’s most important to me?
  3. What am I good at?
  4. What am I bad at?
  5. How can I spend more time doing what I’m good at?
  6. How can I spend less time doing what I’m bad at?

Alternatively, you can write down a goal, and to think about how you will strategically move toward it.

And use your constant thinking time to monitor yourself, and adjust your strategy as you move forward.

Daily thinking serves as a sort of ‘accountability check’ and reminder --- are you moving towards what’s important to you?

Monday, June 10, 2019

Always Stay a Student

LIFE IS ABOUT ALWAYS LEARNING.


Every man I meet is my master in some point, and in that I learn of him. —Ralph Waldo Emerson

The legend of Genghis Khan has echoed through history: A barbarian conqueror, fueled by bloodlust, terrorizing the civilized world. We have him and his Mongol horde traveling across Asia and Europe, insatiable, stopping at nothing to plunder, rape, and kill not just the people who stood in their way, but the cultures they had built. Then, not unlike his nomadic band of warriors, this terrible cloud simply disappeared from history, because the Mongols built nothing that could last.

Like all reactionary, emotional assessments, this could not be more wrong. For not only was Genghis Khan one of the greatest military minds who ever lived, he was a perpetual student, whose stunning victories were often the result of his ability to absorb the best technologies, practices, and innovations of each new culture his empire touched.

In fact, if there is one theme in his reign and in the several centuries of dynastic rule that followed, it’s this: appropriation.

Under Genghis Khan’s direction, the Mongols were as ruthless about stealing and absorbing the best of each culture they encountered as they were about conquest itself. Though there were essentially no technological inventions, no beautiful buildings or even great Mongol art, with each battle and enemy, their culture learned and absorbed something new. Genghis Khan was not born a genius. Instead, as one biographer put it, his was “a persistent cycle of pragmatic learning, experimental adaptation, and constant revision driven by his uniquely disciplined and focused will.”

He was the greatest conqueror the world ever knew because he was more open to learning than any other conqueror has ever been.

Khan’s first powerful victories came from the reorganization of his military units, splitting his soldiers into groups of ten. This he stole from neighboring Turkic tribes, and unknowingly converted the Mongols to the decimal system. Soon enough, their expanding empire brought them into contact with another “technology” they’d never experienced before: walled cities. In the Tangut raids, Khan first learned the ins and outs of war against fortified cities and the strategies critical to laying siege, and quickly became an expert. Later, with help from Chinese engineers, he taught his soldiers how to build siege machines that could knock down city walls. In his campaigns against the Jurched, Khan learned the importance of winning hearts and minds. By working with the scholars and royal family of the lands he conquered, Khan was able to hold on to and manage these territories in ways that most empires could not. Afterward, in every country or city he held, Khan would call for the smartest astrologers, scribes, doctors, thinkers, and advisers—anyone who could aid his troops and their efforts. His troops traveled with interrogators and translators for precisely this purpose.

It was a habit that would survive his death. While the Mongols themselves seemed dedicated almost solely to the art of war, they put to good use every craftsman, merchant, scholar, entertainer, cook, and skilled worker they came in contact with. The Mongol Empire was remarkable for its religious freedoms, and most of all, for its love of ideas and convergence of cultures. It brought lemons to China for the first time, and Chinese noodles to the West. It spread Persian carpets, German mining technology, French metalworking, and Islam. The cannon, which revolutionized warfare, was said to be the resulting fusion of Chinese gunpowder, Muslim flamethrowers, and European metalwork. It was Mongol openness to learning and new ideas that brought them together.

As we first succeed, we will find ourselves in new situations, facing new problems. The freshly promoted soldier must learn the art of politics. The salesman, how to manage. The founder, how to delegate. The writer, how to edit others. The comedian, how to act. The chef turned restaurateur, how to run the other side of the house.

This is not a harmless conceit. The physicist John Wheeler, who helped develop the hydrogen bomb, once observed that “as our island of knowledge grows, so does the shore of our ignorance.” In other words, each victory and advancement that made Khan smarter also bumped him against new situations he’d never encountered before. It takes a special kind of humility to grasp that you know less, even as you know and grasp more and more. It’s remembering Socrates’ wisdom lay in the fact that he knew that he knew next to nothing.

With accomplishment comes a growing pressure to pretend that we know more than we do. To pretend we already know everything. Scientia infla (knowledge puffs up). That’s the worry and the risk—thinking that we’re set and secure, when in reality understanding and mastery is a fluid, continual process.

The nine-time Grammy– and Pulitzer Prize–winning jazz musician Wynton Marsalis once advised a promising young musician on the mind-set required in the lifelong study of music: “Humility engenders learning because it beats back the arrogance that puts blinders on. It leaves you open for truths to reveal themselves. You don’t stand in your own way. . . . Do you know how you can tell when someone is truly humble? I believe there’s one simple test: because they consistently observe and listen, the humble improve. They don’t assume, ‘I know the way.’”

No matter what you’ve done up to this point, you better still be a student. If you’re not still learning, you’re already dying.

It is not enough only to be a student at the beginning. It is a position that one has to assume for life. Learn from everyone and everything. From the people you beat, and the people who beat you, from the people you dislike, even from your supposed enemies. At every step and every juncture in life, there is the opportunity to learn—and even if the lesson is purely remedial, we must not let ego block us from hearing it again.

Too often, convinced of our own intelligence, we stay in a comfort zone that ensures that we never feel stupid (and are never challenged to learn or reconsider what we know). It obscures from view various weaknesses in our understanding, until eventually it’s too late to change course. This is where the silent toll is taken.

Each of us faces a threat as we pursue our craft. Like sirens on the rocks, ego sings a soothing, validating song— which can lead to a wreck. The second we let the ego tell us we have graduated, learning grinds to a halt. That’s why Frank Shamrock said, “Always stay a student.” As in, it never ends.

The solution is as straightforward as it is initially uncomfortable: Pick up a book on a topic you know next to nothing about. Put yourself in rooms where you’re the least knowledgeable person. That uncomfortable feeling, that defensiveness that you feel when your most deeply held assumptions are challenged—what about subjecting yourself to it deliberately? Change your mind. Change your surroundings.

An amateur is defensive. The professional finds learning (and even, occasionally, being shown up) to be enjoyable; they like being challenged and humbled, and engage in education as an ongoing and endless process.

Most military cultures—and people in general—seek to impose values and control over what they encounter. What made the Mongols different was their ability to weigh each situation objectively, and if need be, swap out previous practices for new ones. All great businesses start this way, but then something happens. Take the theory of disruption, which posits that at some point in time, every industry will be disrupted by some trend or innovation that, despite all the resources in the world, the incumbent interests will be incapable of responding to. Why is this? Why can’t businesses change and adapt?

A large part of it is because they lost the ability to learn. They stopped being students. The second this happens to you, your knowledge becomes fragile.

The great manager and business thinker Peter Drucker says that it’s not enough simply to want to learn. As people progress, they must also understand how they learn and then set up processes to facilitate this continual education. Otherwise, we are dooming ourselves to a sort of self-imposed ignorance.

--Excerpted From Ego Is the Enemy

Thursday, May 30, 2019

John Wick 3


I came away from the movie with a few lessons you probably wouldn’t have guessed…
If you listen to the news you might think I’d come away from such a gory violent film with the desire to slaughter a small Japanese village.
And there's something to that because according to one study — violent movies make aggressive people more aggressive.
But for me I came away with a desire to…
1. Be More Professional
Bloodied and beaten, John Wick collapsed under the hot desert sun.
As he was about to close his eyes for a final time, he was rescued by a man on camelback. He was then taken to a canopy where there was a hot bath and a new black suit awaiting him.
In other words — even in our darkest, hottest moments its important to dress well.
All the main characters in the film look so glossy and are so deliberate in their movements. Their style and behavior reminds me of the quote,
“How you do the little things is how you do everything.”
2. Join an Organized Crime Ring
Okay, maybe not, but there’s something to be said to belonging to a larger group of people who share similar interests, talents, values, goals, and rules.
You never know when you might need someone to stitch up your bullet wounds.
3. Live by Rules
Part of what makes the movie so interesting is the paradox of how a lawless underground society is so strongly governed by laws.
I am a firm believer in setting personal rules, but they can be difficult to adhere to when there aren’t any clear consequences for breaking them.
John Wick 3 is all about consequences.
“Consequences.” — John Wick
It’d be a lot easier to not skip “gym day” if you knew that in doing so an army of trained assassins would come to kill you.
“He knew the rules. He broke them.” — Winston
As the movie argues — rules are helpful because they are the only thing that separate us from animals.
“Rules… without them we live with the animals.” — Winston
4. Become Great at Something
Whoever comes, whoever it is… I’ll kill them. I’ll kill them all.” — John Wick
I don’t have any interest in becoming great at Kung-Fu but watching someone be great at something inspires me to want to be better at the areas I care about.
Mob Boss: It’s not what you did, Son, that angers me. It’s who you did it to.
Son: Who?! That fucking nobody!?
Mob Boss: “That “fucking nobody” is John Wick. He was an associate of ourselves. We call him Baba Yaga.
Son: The boogeyman?
Mob Boss: John wasn’t exactly the boogey man. He was the man you sent to kill the boogeyman.
Son: Oh
5. In-Case-of-Emergency
When we’re young we don’t have as much of a safety net for when things go wrong, but as we get older we start building up our cache of guns (metaphorically speaking, of course ;).
It’s smart to build up a cache of tools: duct tape, locks, pepper spray, financial diversification, backup credit cards, etc.
Better to have multiple-lines of defense for when the inevitable storm comes.
Do these things and you just might be called, Baba Yaga.

#ThursdayThoughts



When you don't have money, you think money is going to solve your problems —and to some extent it does. 
But at a certain point it brings its own problems with it. 
Having money is like a having a child. 
You have to care for it, you have to tend to it, and you have to watch it every minute! 
You do this not only to make sure it grows, but to make sure it doesn’t shrink. 
Money is alive and volatile! 
That means I am constantly thinking about my money. 
If you’ve never experienced it, it might be hard for you to understand. 
Amazing feeling! But that’s what’s crazy. I mean, I enjoy all this stuff well enough. 
But as far as my possessions go, honestly — and I’ve really thought about this — I get more pleasure from my FAMILY than anything else. 
That’s the truth, the absolute fucking truth. 
Materially, I don’t need much to be happy. 
I already have everything I want. 
What I am working for, if I am entirely honest, is just the thrill of making more money. 
It’s like playing a game, a game in which the prize is power, the power that is represented by that money. 
Power for what? It doesn't matter! 
The prize is the power itself. It is the feeling of power. 
There is a sensation I get when I make money… If you haven’t experienced it, I can only compare it to sex, or gambling, or a drug. 
It’s exactly like that — maybe even better. 
So my investments and my business ventures are like various casino games, except in my games the odds usually favor me…. And what I live for on a daily basis — this is the darned truth — is just the thrill of playing those games. 
I first started to realize how fucked I was when I found myself thinking about other people’s professions in terms of the bottom line. 
I mean, I have a pal from childhood who is a doctor, and I found myself thinking what an irrational job choice this was for him. He cares about money too, and I just thought, what a waste, how inefficient a use of his time and talent… there are so many better ways to make money. 
Crazy, huh? 
I don’t know what the hell it’s like to be a doctor, but I would guess there’s a whole level of meaning there that people get off on. 
I am not sure I like who I am. 
But I have no choice, no more than a lifelong drug or sex addict does. 
I see businessmen bullshit themselves about why they are really doing it — you know, that they are trying to improve society, or it’s all for their family, or whatever other bull crap. 
That could just be PR, but it also can be self-deception. 
Don’t fool yourself, I think! 
I know you! 
You’re just feeding the monkey! … So, that’s my story. 
I am not entirely proud of my life, but I accept it. 
I try to be as comfortable as I can, to have as much fun as I can, but I’m not in denial about anything. 
I know I’m basically just a junkie living for the next hit of MONEY.